Creating Healthy Relationships
Creating healthy relationships with family, friends and a partner takes work, and is so worth it. It can be a self healing journey. To live a life of emotional freedom is my inner goal. One where I can set boundaries comfortably and take no nonsense, yet be accepting and have toxic people naturally drift away.
Creating healthy relationships and boundaries, for me, feels like I am running on a sandy beach in the sunshine, or being a cat chasing its tail happily leaping, playing and throwing myself in the air.
Can you feel it? The exhilaration. The joy of life. The way we were meant to live and be with each other.
Creating Relationships of Acceptance
Creating relationships where we can live in the moment, content with our friends is a gift in life. To accept our friends just the way they are is a gift to our friends and ourselves. Truly, just being with them. Accepting them. Loving them with all their idiosyncrasies that make them (them).
Creating Relationships with Emotional Freedom
Doing deconstruction work allows you to be around people and not feel resentment or anger when they speak out. Some speak out to push your very button. It is the opposite of their victim character. Moreover, it runs unconsciously in them, but for you, it can hit a this button. Some call it toxic people. Some people poke on purpose, but if you have no button to hit, then you can just see them doing it without a reaction. You can speak comfortably with boundaries because you have no fuel for the poke.
Creating a Life Where You Don’t See Toxic People
More importantly, there is a trend to get rid of toxic people. Identify them in our lives,and say goodbye. However, I suggest when you do deep internal healing work, then there is no such thing as toxic people. You see them differently. In fact, you don’t judge so much. You see them for who they really are and what they are really trying to say. I can tell you that with all the sessions I have given people, Spirit never judges! Judging each other is a human thing.
So, stepping out of judging makes relationships different. Do deconstruction of your reactions makes it so that their is no fuel for you to have a button to poke. When you do deconstruction work with the light of the divine that highlights your issues then as you release you open heart to more of the divine. Your God within. By working on reactions in some kind of deep deconstruction work, you will get to know who you are deep inside (on a whole different and new level). The bottom line is, you will begin to accept yourself on the deepest level. Once you accept yourself, you can accept others for their idiosyncrasies. In the best way, relationships deepen and your heart is magnified because you can openly love yourself and others around you. Love them for who they are, or who they want to be.
Toxic People Then Drift Away
This is not to say to keep toxic people in your life. Interestingly, watch them naturally drift away as you change. More importantly, not burning a bridge but growing away from them while keeping all doors and your heart open.